The FRAY Alchemy Method is the framework I use to walk with you through that crossing.
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It’s designed for Black women and those in similar in-between spaces who are unraveling old scripts, religious, cultural, familial, and learning to live from a deeper, truer self that your body, spirit, and ancestors have been trying to show you all along.
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FRAY is both the foundation of our work and the way you keep moving through life when our time together ends.
The Fray Alchemy is both a coaching method and a kind of soul-alchemy.
The work of taking the raw material of your life: harm, grief, numbness, survival patterns, and transforming it into clarity, power, and a way of moving through the world that is actually yours.
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FRAY stands for Forgiveness, Reconciliation, Amplification, and Yield.
These are not one-time steps. They are living movements you return to again and again as life shifts.
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The alchemy happens in how we move through them:
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Forgiveness helps you reclaim your power from the harm.
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Reconciliation gathers your fragmented parts back home.
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Amplification turns up the volume on your true voice and desires.
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Yield allows aligned support, love, and opportunities to actually land in your life.​
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FRAY Alchemy weaves these four movements through three core pillars of the work: Container / Nervous System Safety, Ancestral Connection, and Shadow & Parts Integration.
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This work is not about becoming someone else.
It’s about transforming what you’ve carried so you can finally live as the one you’ve always been.
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This diagram shows FRAY as a living ecosystem, not a linear ladder.
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The outer circle - Root, Trunk, Branch, Bloom - reflects the seasons of your becoming:
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Root: going down and in, doing the unseen work of honesty, nervous system safety, and ancestral grounding.
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Trunk: building stability and capacity with structure, practices, and support that can actually hold you.
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Branch: extending outward into new ways of speaking, relating, and choosing in your everyday life.
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Bloom: the visible expression of your becoming in how you love, rest, create, and receive.
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At the center, the alchemical vessel holds your story, body, lineage, and longing together long enough for transformation to happen.
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The two crows inside the circle are part of the medicine:
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The Witness holds the full truth of what happened.
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The Messenger moves with your ancestors, carrying what’s ready to be released and what’s ready to be called in.​
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Together, they guard the in-between and remind you that every movement through FRAY is both witnessed and accompanied.
The FRAY Foundation:
Four Movements
F — Forgiveness: Reclaiming Your Power from the Harm
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Forgiveness, in this work, is not about excusing what happened or reconciling with people who still cause you harm.
Forgiveness is the self-chosen release of the grip a person, system, or event has on your sense of self and future. It’s when the wound no longer gets to be in charge of your power to heal and become whole.
You can still feel grief, anger, or caution, and also no longer live inside their choices.
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R — Reconciliation: Coming Home to Yourself
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Reconciliation here is fully internal.
It’s the remembering and gathering back of the fragmented, exiled, over-performing, and shut-down parts of you. The parts that had to sever to survive: the soft one, the loving one, the dreaming one, the liberated one.
This movement is about reconciling yourself back to yourself so more of you can be present, coherent, and at home in your own life and body.
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A — Amplification: Turning Up the Volume on Your True Self
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As you reclaim power and call yourself back, your true voice gets louder.
Amplification is letting your needs, desires, boundaries, and ancestral wisdom take up their full, rightful space. It’s shifting from shrinking, shape-shifting, or code-switching your way through everything, to living in a way that reflects who you actually are and what you know in your bones to be true. As you amplify, your community, your relationships, your work, and your choices begin to re-arrange around that truth.
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Y — Yield: Blossoming into Aligned Desire
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Yield is the blossoming that follows alignment.
Now that you are more attuned to your true self, the desires that actually belong to you can find you. Yielding is letting right-fit opportunities, relationships, rest, and support land without chasing, forcing, or bargaining yourself away.
This isn’t passive. It’s an active, tender willingness to be seen, held, and resourced in the life that’s truly yours.
The Three Pillars of the FRAY Alchemy Method
The FRAY movements sit inside three core pillars that shape how we work together.
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Pillar One: Container & Nervous System Safety
Nothing real can shift if your body doesn’t feel safe enough to be honest.
In this pillar, we focus on building a steady container between us, within you, and around you so your system doesn’t have to white-knuckle its way through healing.
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This can look like:
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Practices that help your nervous system downshift from survival into more space and choice
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Naming and honoring your limits instead of pushing past them in the name of “growth”
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Creating rituals and routines that help you feel held, not just productive
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Moving at a pace your body can actually integrate
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The goal here isn’t to become “calm all the time.”
It’s to remind you that when rupture comes, you’re not alone with it. You have tools, language, and a real container to hold you.
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Pillar Two: Ancestral Connection & Remembering
You are not doing this work in a vacuum.
This pillar is about reconnecting with the wisdom, protection, and stories that were interrupted, shamed, or stolen, especially for Black women navigating the aftershocks of colonization, Christianity-as-control, and family survival strategies.
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This can look like:
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Exploring the lineages, lands, practices, and stories that live in your body
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Distinguishing between inherited beliefs rooted in fear vs. those rooted in protection and love
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Creating simple, sustainable rituals for honoring your people and your own inner elder
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Letting yourself feel accompanied instead of abandoned in your becoming
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Here, reconciliation isn’t about going back to painful systems.
It’s about returning to the deeper rivers under those systems. The ones that always knew you were worthy, powerful, and beloved.
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Pillar Three: Shadow & Parts Integration
The parts of you that feel “too much,” “too angry,” “too needy,” or “too neglected” are often carrying truth and power.
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In this pillar, we work with your inner parts within the shadows, not as enemies, but as persons with their own autonomy, needs, fears, and pain.
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Meeting the part that still believes you only deserve love if you perform or over-function
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Listening to the rage that knows exactly where the line has been crossed
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Sitting with the grief that mourns the life you should have had access to
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Getting curious about the part of you that keeps saying “no” or “not yet”
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Instead of trying to “fix” these parts, we invite them back into the circle.
This is where reconciliation-with-self and amplification-of-truth really deepen.
What Success Looks Like in This Work
Success here isn’t perfection. It’s practice.
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By the end of our work together, my hope is that you:
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Know how to return to Forgiveness, Reconciliation, Amplification, and Yield when life shifts
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Have a lived sense of what safety, truth, and support feel like in your body
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Trust that you have a way home to yourself again and again, in all the different seasons
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FRAY is both the beginning and the journey.
What is FRAY Alchemy?
Reading the FRAY Alchemy Map
How the FRAY Alchemy Method Feels in Practice
When we weave FRAY and the Three Pillars together, clients often describe:
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More self-trust in big and small decisions
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Less time stuck in shame spirals before they can “come back” to themselves
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Clearer, kinder boundaries in relationships, work, and spiritual spaces
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A softer relationship with anger, grief, and desire - they become guides, not enemies
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A growing sense of being accompanied by their own spirit and their people, rather than feeling like they’re “making it all up” alone
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Being able to hear the music again (my favorite).
You’re not becoming someone who never wobbles again.
You’re becoming someone who knows how to come home to herself when she does.