Transformative Personal Growth Coaching for Black Women

the becoming

Intuitive Ancestral Coaching for Black Women Across the Diaspora in the In-Between

You’ve outgrown who you had to be to survive, but you’re not yet sure who you’re becoming. The roles, beliefs, and patterns that once kept you safe now feel too tight, and you can’t unknow what your body and spirit are telling you.

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THE IN-BETWEEN

You might not have language for it yet, but you know the feeling. The In-Between is that stretch of life where the old version of you has expired, but the new one hasn’t fully formed. The job, the faith, the family roles, the mask you’ve worn at work or in relationships, it doesn’t fit anymore, but you’re still inside it.

On the outside, you’re still moving through the motions you were taught: work, church, culture, family expectations. Your feet know the steps by heart. But inside, they feel numb and far away.

I’m also talking about the place where you’re grieving the life your body knows it should have had access to. The teachings, traditions, and communal care that were interrupted, stolen, or shamed out of your lineage.

Under that numbness is a different kind of grief. A grief that knows “I was meant to be raised in something deeper, more profound, and I wasn’t.” The ancestral connection matters because that’s the part whispering:

"You were supposed to be held, taught, guided like this.
You were meant to know these things in your bones."

That’s the ache of the In-Between.

It often shows up like:

Shrinking or shape-shifting yourself to survive rooms that were never built with you in mind.
Feeling like you’re performing a life your spirit doesn’t fully believe in anymore, your mouth remembers the script, but your soul knows only truth.
Being the one everyone leans on, while quietly wondering if anyone actually sees you.
Having done therapy, read the books, listened to the podcasts, and still feeling like something essential is missing that you can’t quite name.
Your body feeling at war with itself: what you want, what you “should” want, what you’re allowed to want.
Finally getting the thing you thought you wanted… and instead of relief, feeling anxiety, urgency, or emptiness.
Knowing, deep down, that you were meant to inherit wisdom, practices, and ways of being you never got to touch.
Carrying a constant hum of “not enough” without being able to name exactly what’s missing.
The feeling that something is just off.

It’s confusing, disorienting, and often lonely. You know you can’t go back, but you have no clear map forward.

If this is where you find yourself, you’re not broken, you’re standing in the hallway between what you inherited and what you’re remembering.

That’s the In-Between.
That’s where our work begins.

“Weaving wholeness from the threads they tried to sever.”

The Work of Remembering

release - reclaim - remember

The Becoming is a 12-session, 1:1 coaching container for Black women across the diaspora who find themselves in the In-Between, no longer able to stay who they were, not yet sure who they’re becoming.

At its core, this work is remembering: remembering the parts of you that were severed, the lineages that had to survive what they should never have had to carry, and the truths your body has been holding all along. Through ancestral connection, shadow/parts work, and a nervous-system-safe container, we make room for those memories to surface in ways your body can actually feel and trust.

This isn’t about fixing you.

It’s about returning to the knowing that you were never broken, only made to forget.

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what happens inside the work

Inside The Becoming, my work tends to look like:

Naming what you can’t quite say yet – I listen under your words, to your body and your lineage, and help put language to what has felt unspeakable.
Moving you from “I’m broken” to context – Instead of assuming you are the problem, we explore what your nervous system, family, culture, and ancestors had to do to keep you alive in this soil.
Weaving ancestry into right-now choices – Ancestral connection shows up not just on the altar, but in how you rest, set boundaries, and relate to work, love, and yourself.
Creating a slow, somatic-aware container that still has direction – We move at a pace your body can hold, without forcing breakthroughs or drifting aimlessly.
Bridging your brilliant mind with your mystical self – There is room here for your analysis, your skepticism, your logic, and your intuition, symbols, and dreams.
Honoring the In-Between as sacred, not as failure – We treat this threshold between lives as a real place to live and listen, not just a problem to escape.

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What’s Included in
The Becoming

The Becoming is a 12-session, 1:1 coaching container for Black women across the diaspora and those who align with this work.

12 x 60-minute 1:1 sessions

We meet regularly (usually weekly, with some room for biweekly when needed) so the work can stay connected and build in a way your body can actually hold.

Within these 12 sessions, we move through three key movements of the work:

Mapping the In-Between

Early in our time together, we name where you are now: what feels like it’s ending, what’s emerging, what your body is holding, and what your lineage is whispering. This gives us a shared map of your In-Between so we’re not wandering in the dark.

Ancestral Alignment

At a point in the journey when it feels right, we dedicate time to more intentionally inviting your ancestors into the process, listening for patterns, protection, and support, and exploring what you’re being asked to lay down or pick up in this season.

Integration & Wayfinding

As our work together comes to a close, we gather the threads of what has shifted. We name what feels different in your body, your choices, and your relationships, and identify what will help you continue honoring this becoming beyond our sessions.

Throughout all of this is where the heart of the work lives:

The in-between sessions

The sessions between these touchpoints are where we stay with what’s real:

→ Unearthing truths your body has been carrying

→ Tending to urgency, grasping, numbness, and “never enoughness”

→ Welcoming in the parts of you that overwork, disappear, rage, or stay small

→ Making grounded choices that fit your actual life

These sessions are not a rigid step-by-step process; they are responsive, ancestor-aware, and paced with your nervous system, not against it.

Practices that arise naturally

When it feels supportive, we may co-create simple rituals, reflections, or grounding practices that help you stay connected to the work between sessions. Nothing performative, nothing to “keep up with,” just what feels doable and aligned for you in that moment.

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Investment for the becoming

Money is part of the container, too.

I name my prices clearly because I know how exhausting it can be to see “DM me for rates” and get surprised on a call. You deserve to know the investment up front so your body, your spirit, and your nervous system can be in the room with you when you decide. Because if this decision is made in urgency, this work will be misaligned from the jump.

The Becoming is a 12-session, 1:1 coaching container.
Below are the payment options for the full 12-session journey:

Pay in Full - $3,333

→ One-time payment before our first session

→ Includes 1 bonus 60-minute coaching session

(to be used within 3 months after completion)

→ Ideal if you want to anchor in, settle the money piece, and focus fully on the work

3-Month Plan - 3 x $1,111

→ Three monthly payments of $1,111

→ Total investment: $3,333

→ Includes 12 sessions over approximately three months

→ A good fit if you prefer a structured monthly rhythm

I will never force or convince anyone to work with me. If I have to talk you into it, the container won’t serve either of us. Our work depends on mutual consent, readiness, and respect. You’re welcome to book a free clarity call simply to feel into whether we’re a good fit, with the good-faith intention that if it feels right and aligned, you are willing and able to invest at these rates now or in the near future.

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The Beginning: 6-Session Container

For when you know you need a held space, but a full 12-session journey feels like too much to commit to right now.

The Beginning is a 6-session, 1:1 container for Black women across the diaspora who feel the pull toward this work, but aren’t ready to step into the full 12-session Becoming journey yet.

We use these six sessions to begin:

mapping your In-Between
building a felt sense of safety in your body and in our container
inviting in ancestral awareness
and gently meeting the parts of you that have been holding everything together.

This is not a “lite” version of The Becoming; it’s focused work to create a foundation. Many women who begin here choose to continue our work, either by moving into

The Becoming or through ongoing sessions at my established client rate.

What’s Included in The Beginning

6 × 60-minute 1:1 sessions (most clients meet weekly)
The same somatic-aware, ancestor-rooted, shadow/parts-informed approach as The Becoming, held in a shorter, more concentrated arc

Investment for The Beginning

$1,800 total — paid up front
6 × 60-minute sessions at $300 per session
– Limited number of 6-session spots available at a time to protect the depth of this work

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After the Journey:

From here, you are welcome to continue working with me in single1:1 sessions. These are 60-minute sessions available only to returning clients and are a space to deepen, recalibrate, or get support around what’s still unfolding. These single sessions are to support you as things integrate. Let’s feel into what your body and life can hold.

Single session rate (returning clients): $275
Sessions are usually scheduled every 2–4 weeks, depending on what your body, life, and capacity can hold.

how we begin

If you’re feeling a pull toward this work, even if you don’t have all the words yet, that’s enough to start.

Step 1:
Book Your Free Clarity Call

Step 2:
Step Into The Container

Step 3:
Moving Forward

A 30-minute call to meet, feel into alignment, and talk about where you are in the In-Between, what you’re longing for, and what your body and life can hold right now.

Together, we’ll decide whether The Becoming (12 sessions) or The Beginning (6 sessions) is the right place to start, or if it’s not the right time at all, and that’s okay too.

We’ll choose a payment option and schedule your first session.
From there, we begin the work of remembering at a pace your system can actually hold.

Disclaimer

The Fray Alchemist (Takia) provides transformative personal growth coaching focused on ancestral, somatic, and shadow-rooted work. Coaching is not a substitute for professional mental health care, medical treatment, or financial advice. The services offered are educational and advisory in nature, designed to facilitate personal clarity, self-awareness, and goal setting. Clients are responsible for seeking professional advice from qualified professionals for any health, medical, legal, or financial matters. By engaging in coaching services, you acknowledge that Takia is not acting as a licensed mental health professional, medical professional, or financial advisor.